Dating Site FAQ: Real Answers for Real Daters

Tap Join Free, enter your email or phone number, confirm you are 18+, and add one starter photo. The full sign-up takes under 60 seconds. You can finish your profile and verification later.

You need to verify with a real first name on government ID, but your visible profile name can be a first name, nickname, or initial. Last names are never shown publicly.

Yes. Email-only sign-up is supported. We only ask for a phone number if you want SMS two-factor authentication, which is optional but recommended.

Open Settings → Account → Delete account. Your profile, photos, and messages are removed within 24 hours. Backup copies are purged within 30 days, in line with our retention policy.

Yes. Snooze mode hides your profile from new matches while keeping your conversations active. It is free and reversible at any time.

Four to six is the sweet spot. One clear face shot, one full-body, one with a hobby, one social photo, and an optional travel or pet shot. Our profile tips guide breaks down the full rule.

Three to five short lines that show personality and intent: what you do for fun, what you are looking for, and one specific hook a stranger could ask about. Skip a list of dealbreakers - save those for the prompts.

Yes, anytime. Most members refresh photos and prompts every 30 days. The platform nudges you when activity drops so you can swap in something new.

Common reasons: no face visible, sunglasses on every photo, group shot where you cannot be identified, or AI-generated imagery. Re-upload a clear solo photo and it will pass within minutes.

We rank potential matches by mutual intent, distance, recency of activity, prompt-answer compatibility, and your selected Big One Category. We never sort by attractiveness scores.

The two biggest factors are profile completeness and verification. Verified, fully-completed profiles get 3.2x more replies. Add a sixth photo, finish your prompts, and turn on verification to lift your queue position immediately.

Across the platform in Q1 2026, women replied to men at 38% (vs. a 14% mainstream-app benchmark). Reply rate climbs further when your opener references the recipient’s prompt rather than their photos.

Yes. Unmatching removes the conversation from both inboxes silently. There is no notification sent to the other person.

Set your search radius in Settings → Discovery. The default is 25 miles; you can narrow to 5 miles or expand to 100. Pair this with our conversation starters to turn local matches into actual dates.

You snap a live selfie pose matching an on-screen prompt. Our system compares it to your uploaded photos within minutes. ID upload is a separate, optional second step that adds a stronger badge to your profile.

Tap the three-dot menu on any profile or chat → Report or Block. Blocking is instant and silent. Reports go to our U.S.-based trust & safety team, who respond within 4 hours on average.

We never sell personal data. We share aggregated, anonymized analytics with research partners only. Read our full data practices on our About page and our 2026 safety guide.

Yes. A 10-minute in-app video call confirms the person matches their photos and lets you check vibe before investing in a real-world plan. Members who video-verify report 42% fewer no-shows.

Unlimited matches, unlimited messaging with mutual matches, photo verification, basic filters, and access to all Big One Categories. Safety features are never paywalled.

Advanced filters (height range, intent, lifestyle), read receipts, incognito mode, and priority placement in your matches’ discovery queue. Premium starts at $14.99/month with discounts on quarterly and annual plans.

Settings → Membership → Cancel. Cancellation is instant and you keep premium features through the end of your billing period. We do not auto-renew without a clear pre-renewal email reminder.

We offer prorated refunds on annual plans within 14 days of purchase, and full refunds within 48 hours. App Store and Google Play subscriptions follow each store’s refund policy.

The 3-6-9 rule is a relationship-pacing heuristic: at three months you decide if you like the person, at six months you decide if you trust them, and at nine months you decide if you can build a future together. It encourages slow, intentional checkpoints rather than rushing labels. We mention it in our conversation starters guide as a calmer alternative to forcing “the talk” in week two.

The 7-7-7 rule says: every 7 days plan a small connection moment, every 7 weeks plan a special date, and every 7 months plan a memorable trip or shared experience. It is a framework for keeping a relationship from drifting into autopilot once the new-couple dopamine fades. Couples who follow even a loose version report higher satisfaction at the 12-month mark.

GGG stands for “good, giving, and game” - a phrase coined by columnist Dan Savage to describe a partner who is skilled, generous, and open-minded within reasonable, consensual limits. On modern dating profiles it signals a values-aligned approach to intimacy and communication, not a specific act.

Breadcrumbing is sending sporadic, low-effort messages to keep someone interested without intending to date them. Avoid it (and spot it) by watching for plans that never materialize. Our safety guide covers how to disengage gracefully.

Yes. Slow dating means fewer matches at once, longer in-app conversations before meeting, and prioritizing depth over volume. It is the dominant style among returning daters aged 30+ in 2026, and our intent-based queues are built to support it.

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